Do you have difficulties letting go of people who are negative toward you and speak negative words about you?
Yeah! Some people say, “I just ignore them.” But realistically, you don’t… you express it on social media, to other people, and sometimes you allow it to mentally drain you. That’s evidence you are mentally in war with people who speak negative about you.
So, I’m listening to a group discuss life success. The group discussion led to people who have negative energy and words toward you when you become successful.
I was reminded of a person whom I was friends with for a number of years. The person was approachable, confidential (I think, I thought), when I needed to vent, I would visit or call… a trust worthy friend… (so I thought…).
On the contrary, there was something ignored for a number of years. At times, there were derogatory statements about my physical appearance, in a playful manner. But was it playful?
After many years of derogatory statements, I thought… “Wait a minute! There is an undertone that keeps surfacing…you have hidden issue about me.”
I know, you’re probably thinking, “why did it take you so long to figure it out?” I’ve programmed my mind to dismiss negativity as immaturity, unlearned, or purpose driven. It doesn’t interrupt my drive.
I often use this scripture in my writings as a reminder that there are deep unspoken thoughts in a persons heart. “For what person knows the thoughts and motives of a man except the man’s spirit within him?…,” (1 Corinthians 2:11). The hidden thoughts.
“The heart knows its own bitterness, And no stranger shares its joy,” (Proverbs 14:10).
The complexity of the human heart, only God knows.
The complexity of friendships is building trust and communication. Misunderstandings can easily creep between friends, but maturity exemplifies and establishes stability… it doesn’t waver.
Maybe it’s time to move on if a friend lacks this level of maturity, or distance yourself.
Never underestimate change… People evolve through the process of life experiences into maturity. My suggestion, you might leave that door peeked, the friendship might rekindle.
She’s still considered a friend… why? “A friend loves at all times, And a brother is born for adversity,” (Proverbs 17:17).
A true friend loves during adversities. Maybe we are in an adverse moment? Yes, we occasionally talk… no ill feelings… but… hmm!
My inner peace continues to seeks love, purpose, moves in silence, gravitate to spiritual guidance… simply seeking to be the person God has called…and I’m loving it.
I just saying (ijs).