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Married men of the cloth and side chicks

Some married men of the cloth have no conviction. They slither throughout their congregation in search for vulnerable women, as women wait to connect with them. Women that seek their attention are infatuated of their prestige, money, and notoriety.

What’s interesting is he doesn’t have to be attractive, as the lustful rage in women desire to become a part of his churchy fame.

Solomon warned men of these types of women that observe men who lack good sense. She meets him with a sly and cunning heart. She lurks around corners waiting for that right moment to catch and kiss him. Solomon was talking about a married woman, who told another man that her husband had gone on a long journey. She opened her home to him. He yields to her temptation because he failed to keep God’s word and commandments at the center of his heart.

When a woman is impregnated by these men of the cloth, she is seen as the villain, relieved from her church duties and goes in hiding. She is not heard from until his spouse becomes aware or a scandal is exposed. The man of the cloth that impregnated her remains in position.” Why? This is discrimination at its core.

Where is Godly fairness and conviction?

God gave specific instructions for married folks, yet the sacredness of marriage has become tainted with “...sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality (total irresponsibility, lack of self-control), and idolatry, which has led to hostility, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, disputes, dissensions, factions [that promote heresies], envy, drunkenness, and riotous behavior...” Scripture says this, “Those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.”

These men of the cloth seem to be concerned about their kingdom and not God’s Kingdom.

This is a kingdom where the invasion of adultery wreaks havoc. God named adultery as a sin because He knew the heartaches and pain it would cause; a pain that feels equivalent to death, the loss of life. I’ve experienced it.

Sincere single Christians that see this happening in the church world dismiss the thought of marriage, as they fear the distasteful acts of these men establish vulnerabilities to commitments. It leads the non-believer to become comfortable in sin as many say, “We are better off than church folks.”

Are these men of the cloth really called of God or self-made church destroyers? A man that destroys his home will destroy his church.

Similar tensions happening in the early church prompt Paul to instruct the husband to love his wife, seek the highest good for her as he “surrounds her with caring unselfish love, as Christ loves the church.” He continues instructing man to love his wife as he loves himself. “For no one ever hated his own body, but [instead] he nourishes and protects and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church.”

Women, a man that does not love himself, you can’t help him, that includes the men of the cloth. Because they choose to sin, they are of this world. They are self-haters that struggle to overcome social, psychological, and economical disparities which they experienced in life. They try to smother their pain, but the act of adultery exposes it. The damage causes spiritual death throughout the church world and in some instances natural death.

Hurt people, hurt people, and are blind to sexual red flags, such as inappropriate touching, making sexual statements, and sexual body jesters, asking to meet in private, and making negative statements about his or her spouse. They marry to hide in the shadows of their pain, as they avoid teaching the whole bible because it will expose their riotous living.

Yes, they have read the scripture that indicates God heals the brokenhearted, and have preached sermons to the brokenhearted. But they themselves remain broken. This is not God’s desire for mankind.

If this is your man of the cloth, maybe you need to consider moving on unless you are the other perpetrator that play along and agree with his sins.

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