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The experiential and environmental traumas that defies true love

The search for true love seems useless, as the barriers of life seem to interfere. It is the experiential and environmental traumas that connect to the soul and destroy mankind’s character.

The loss of character defies the moral and ethical intent to adhere to integrity. When one has no integrity a sound mind is impaired. An impaired mind or thinking capacity leaves folks distraught and unable to face and maneuver life distractions.

Could this be the reason why there is chaos in our world?  The reason why divorce rates are high, marriage is on the decline, family structures are destroyed, and drug and alcohol addictions are the demise of humans, killings and murder are ramped.

Maybe true love does not exist. The current cultural shift implies the ideologies of true love are based on a day to day feeling. How an individual feels each day determines which arena love exists. Who I love is a feeling, an emotion that leads me to whomever fits my mood. This is the type of love that some millennial and Z Generation have adapted too. Where did the break-down begin?

Folks who lived during the decades that family and marriage was the ultimate expectation after completing high school or college understood it to be “until death we part,” this no longer exist. When folks get tired of one relationship, they move to the next. Stabled relationships are becoming obsolete.

The discombobulating of societal norms is in such frenzy that one forgets that they had a first love. The generation we live can be mined boggling.

The nature of this generation is shifty as love is a state of competition, as Leah competed against Rachel for Jacob’s love in the book of Genesis. Men and women are opponents contesting who will be the winner of the love game. These are folks who Paul spoke of as “people who will be lovers of self, self-focused, narcissistic, boastful, arrogant, revilers, ungrateful, unholy and profane…,” (2 Timothy 3:2). These are folks who have no reverence for God. Yes, many speak God out of their mouth, but their hearts are far from Him, (Matthew 15:8). Jesus references them as hypocrites whose public life belies their private life.

Where and what is true love? Surely if you have any of the characteristics that are listed in 2 Timothy 3:2, you do not possess true love.

True love “endures with patience and serenity; is kind, and thoughtful; and is not jealous or envious; does not brag; and is not proud or arrogant; is not rude, self-seeking and is not provoked, overly sensitive, and easily angered; it does not take into account a wrong endured; does not rejoice at injustice, but rejoices with the truth; it bears all things; believes all things; hopes all things and endure all things; it never fails, fades nor ends,” (1 Corinthians 13:4-8).

True love mends back together and heals. “He heals the brokenhearted And binds up their wounds [healing their pain and comforting their sorrow], (Psalm 147:3).

“There is no fear in love, But perfect love drives out fear…” (I John 4:18).

True love is in God, “For the [true love of God is this: that we habitually keep His commandments and remain focused on His precepts. And His commandments and His precepts are not difficult [to obey], (I John 5:3).

True love gives. “For God so loved and dearly prized the world, that He gave His [One and only begotten Son, so that whoever believes and trusts in Him shall not perish but have eternal live,” (John 3:16).

A lawyer who was an expert in the Mosaic Law asked Jesus this question, “Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?” (Matthew 22:36). Jesus said this, “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all you soul, and with all your mind. The second is like this, You shall love your neighbor as yourself [that is unselfishly seek the best or higher good for other],” (Matthew 22:37-39).

God’s love heals the negative experiential and environmental traumas, restores an impaired mind and miraculously reverse chaotic experiences to peace, only if you believe in Him. God is the common denominator that brings all fractions of life together, heals broken marriage and families, and restores broken relationship, but only to those who believe. You must first believe.


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